Good evening, welcome. Chag Sameach, happy TU B’Av. They said Love and Soulmates and everyone came, huh. Let’s say hello… there are a bunch of people, many times the people we have sitting here today, watching through the Virtual Classroom… so we also welcome the people throughout the world. Different groups of people who come together to watch this same connection… in Mexico, Ecuator, Peru, in many places. Tonight… you were right in coming… because… the first thing I’m going to promise is you’re leaving here knowing the secrets… of relationships. The second thing I can promise is I’m almost certain you won’t like it. Right? And the third thing I can promise is if you decide to do some of what you’re about to hear tonight… most likely next year you won’t want to come because you’ll be with your soulmate. OK? Or you’ll only want to come to make that bond stronger Just to know, because I see some new faces and I have bad memory in general, not because you haven’t been here before, just to know if there are people here for the first time coming to Applied Kabalah… OK. Alright. And of those who are here for the first time, is it also the first time you’re listening to something that has to do with Kabbalah? Yes? Raise your hand. Yes? As well? OK. Surely the person beside you is responsible for that. Aren’t they? Right? Well, because… I want you to know that due to you coming for the first time to this connection, but haven’t heard anything about Kabbalah before, likely some of the concepts you hear… you’ll leave here thinking I’m absolutely mad. If that’s the case, I suggest you take the Kabbalah Initial Course: Live and Be Free… so you find that I truly am mad, but I’m not the first one who’s this mad, rather, us kabbalists have a 4200 year tradition of being crazy… we’re a not too … dangerous kind of crazy. The… Talmud says regarding tonight… says: there aren’t happiest days to Israel… as 15th of Av and Yom Kippur. And it puts today in the same category as the day that’s supposed to be the most important day in Jewish yearly holiday calendar. If it isn’t the first time you’re here, you know that when these Holy Texts speak of Israel as a concept, most of these Texts exist way before Jewish religion or the State of Israel or a country named Israel. Israel is a metaphysical code, describing types of souls… a state of soul evolution. When souls incarnated in the bodies start to feel a desire of joining this thing religions call God, in Kabbalah we know it to be a little different… but in truth Israel is nor a nationality nor a religion, rather types of souls… or a moment in the state of evolution of the souls, when people start to desire spirituality. Despite after that, friends laugh at them and all, they can’t help it… they reached a place of growth, in their journey throughout this world… where they desire to connect with something more than just the physical. Otherwise… there wouldn’t even be the slightest interest in coming tonight… because there’s an offer of finding your soulmate. If the add, instead of saying “Tune in to find your soulmate”, it’d said “…to make the one you fancy fall head over heals for you”, half a million people would’ve showed up. Right? Most people, and it’s like that, most people don’t care about soulmates… metaphysics, what’s that. But then there are others, like you, Including me… where we want something more than just the physical. And by the time we’ve arrived here, we already know the physical can be bought and it’s a lot easier to reach and a lot less… fulfilling . Provides a lot less satisfaction than we’re looking for here today. We’ve already gone through all those stages, if it’s pretty, if it’s ugly, if it’s… if our signs are compatible. Now we want something different, we want… someone with whom we have beyond a physical connection and obviously, from that connection, what’s physical is much better than before. And today, TU B’Av… has a number of features; kabbalistically and the first TU B’Av references on Biblical Texts, appeared about 4000 years ago, which make it a bit older than February 14th. And the first reference that appears in Kabbalistic texts about tonight, about today, that actually started when the sun went down until tomorrow afternoon, when the sun goes down… say tonight, the brides of Israel dress in white (this is stated in the Zohar)… it says, the brides of Israel dress in white and go out to find their soulmate. No one says… when someone asks: What’s your relationship status? -Well, the truth is I’m finding someone that… People say I’m LOOKING for someone that makes me feel this and that, that gives me this and the other. So it’s weird, this idea. Further more, it’s in the way -The Zohar explains it later and says (obviously we’ve explained it) the brides of Israel, the feminine aspect, are all human beings. It’s not… the women. “Tonight they dress in white”… doesn’t seem to be an option, rather what literally The Zohar says, is that there’s something taking place tonight, that dresses people in white. And when they’re dressed in white like that… when they go outside, they find their soulmate. And in fact, in ancient times, in times of… the journey, when the people of Israel left Egypt, the 40 days in the dessert and then when they entered that Promised Land, people wasn’t allowed to marry different Tribes. OK? If they were from a particular tribe, they were like lineages, the Tribes and they couldn’t… someone from the Tribe of Reuben couldn’t marry someone from the Tribe of Levi; unless they met on this night. If someone found affinity in the other and it happened on this night, there wasn’t any principle preventing them from marrying each other. Maybe I’ll… -because I know there are new people here and on the Virtual Classroom as well, that never took the Initial Course… so maybe it’s worth to remember… that… Kabbalah is the 4th and deepest level of perception of… The Bible. And the first thing Kabbalah tells us, is that the whole story in The Bible, is like a tale, it’s not true… that really behind that text, ther’s a code on how this Universe works from the day of Creation, to the end of it; on the mechanics of how this Universe operate. And if we believe in a God or have any idea of spirituality, specially if we live in Argentina, surely is because we come from Jewish, Catholic or Muslim families… that where they got it from, believing in God, is from that book, from the Bible. Kabbalah is the 4th level of understanding, let’s say, the deepest level. There are only 4 levels and the highest is called Sod, which means Secret and it’s the metaphysical knowledge of … The Bible and the mechanics behind the Creation. And what Kabbalists say is that it isn’t true that God created the World in seven days and this whole story in The Bible. OK? Seven days stand for an Emanating system of seven primordial emotions -we explain it in the classes, it’s not the point I’m trying to make anyway. And the most important thing that story of Creation tells us, is that it wasn’t God who created the World, rather it was ourselves who created it. There’s a story that tells that the only thing God created was the vessel of the infinite world. The Creator, what we call God, was an infinite light source… an absolute pleasure giving consciousness… and since it didn’t have who to give it to, it created a vessel, as it’s called in Kabbalah. A Kli, the vessel. But when that vessel was filled with light and received infinite satisfaction… since the vessel represents the concept of the feminine, after a while, it wanted more. OK? I have a friend who always says that men and women are told apart by only one thought and only one trait in which one can’t be like the other… He says men want “that”… “that”, whatever they have, they want “that” and they go after “that”… and when they get it, they want something else, but they’re always wanting something in particular. Women want “more”. Doesn’t matter what they have, they want more… But this isn’t right or wrong, that’s the nature of the feminine, because the feminine is the vessel OK? So, since that vessel, since God, let’s call it God for all of us to agree upon. Since God had an infinite light to give, it created a vessel that had infinite desire. What does infinite desire mean? Doesn’t matter how much you give me, I want more. The fact is that within moments of this light being created and receiving infinite satisfaction… it said: “Just a second… You want me to believe that the best thing there is to do is to receive infinitely, but you, who are God and own the game, never receive, just give? It’s gotta be that the best thing to do is to give not to receive.” OK? So it said: “I too wanna give.” And there wasn’t anyone else to give to. But this inequality in form contradiction… OK? The fact that they’re not the same in form… -In the physical world, opposites attract. Poles, all opposites generates attraction. Metaphysically, spiritually… only the same in form, attract each other and fuse as one. Like water and oil. In this physical world, you have to make a cake, doe, something to mix water and oil. In the metaphysical level, there’s a formula as well, but they’re not mixed either. Right? We know if there are two (physically speaking)… flour and whatever, what it does is it brings them together, but they can’t mix. However, pour a drop of water in a glass of water and happens in an instant. And that’s where the idea of soulmates comes from. There’s one person… that has half of your own soul. It’s not someone whom you have to be compatible with. There aren’t any others that are compatible. There’s only one compatible person. Right? That’s your soulmate. And today we’re going to see how to achieve it. The fact is, this inequality in form between the light and the vessel … produced the first divorce. The first love story, the first feminine and masculine aspect… were the light and the vessel. The light is masculine and the vessel is feminine. Now what happened? They got a divorce and of course, the woman wanted a separation of assets. And wanted to keep the house. So in 7 days, God built this house for her. This world is what the vessel got. We’re the vessel. When I ask, really, to the people who are here for the first time, if you don’t get out of here totally scared, take the Initial Course again, because a lot of what you’re hearing will make sense in that moment. But definitely, this world… is the separation of assets from the first soulmates and the first divorce. God got the Heavens, the vessel got the Earth. In fact, God made the Earth for the vessel, but it wasn’t the idea. That’s why we ask who created… in Kabbalah we say the creator is the one who has the idea, not who does the physical work. So God helped the vessel by emanating this physical world, so it would come here to play a game of giving… to see what being like God feels like. That’s why men have such a desire of power, because what we want the most is to be like God. We don’t want to be the best of humans, we want to be gods. Being the best of humans is a lot of work, whereas if something gives me power and makes me feel like a god above somebody else, even if I’m not a very good person. Right? Because I’m, I don’t know, a Surgeon and save lives and I feel like God. Those are the things people are attracted to. Recently, I don’t know if you know, there’s a comedian… a Spanish comedian who has a play here in Buenos Aires, that’s called “God made the world in seven days and you can tell”. And basically what it’s about, is how badly made the world is. Right? What happens is, of course, God was making it for… – He was giving the house, but they were already divorced, so… it’s up to us that this house turns out a little better than what was handed to us. That first divorce… produced, in a way, the operating rules… the operating rules of the game of life. I won’t get into details now, since we have a number of Courses for that… but in the Ari writings, Rabbi Yitzchak Luria… who was one of the greatest Kabbalists that ever lived, circa 1500. Rabbi Yitzchak Luria tells a story… Excuse me. He doesn’t tell, rather he explains… there’s a famous story in the… in The Talmud… where a wise man is criticized, one of the Tannaims, one of the people who wrote The Talmud… and a woman who asked him a question. This woman is criticized for being heretic, due to a question she asked… and this wise man is criticized for the answer he have. That was written, The Talmud was written about 2000 years ago, 1900 years ago. iIt’s been… 400/500 years… since Rabbi Yitzchak Luria explained what actually took place on that conversation… and explains how… behind that conversation are the secrets… about how relationships work. The lady, who was very rich, and had many slaves… goes to this wise man… and says: “I was going through that book you call The Bible”… OK? Shes a lady from some other town, some other religion. And she says: “And I read that God of yours… created the world… in seven days, he was creating the world for seven days. Since that day… what does He do?” OK? When He was done creating the world… what does He do? This wise man replies: “From the day God created the world, until today… the only thing God does is He sits on his throne… and pair couples up.” That’s why this Talmud wise man is criticized, because they say: “How can he answer that! He should’ve replied… God is everything. There’s not even a blade of grass that grows without God commanding it to grow.” And the Ari says thinking that way, thinking God is involved in this world… is a… almost a… let’s call it disrespecting God, but the Ari says is almost idolatry… the thought… is like taking away all The Creator’s omnipotence attribute. The guy who invented Rolex was able to build a perpetual mechanism and God couldn’t make a world that works on it’s own, without having to command the plants to grow? Would be ridiculous. OK? So it isn’t true that God is -in fact, according to Kabbalah, once God created this world, never came back in. This world is ours, so people who ask God: “please bring me my soulmate…” God would want that to happen, but… he can’t… at least not in the physical realm. OK? Because a totally metaphysical God can’t interfere in the physical. Only I can move… this cup. God, move the cup! Javier, move the cup! I can. God, cannot. And it isn’t because God can’t do it all, but because there’s a pact we made with Him… and we told him: Look… you give me raw material and I’m co-creating a world with you. And once it’s MY world, stay out of it. So the only way God can move this cup is… -a minute ago when I wanted to come up with an example on how to show you God can’t move the cup… I thought about… showing you by moving the cup. So, who really moved the cup? Who knows. Was it me? Where does the thought of what I’m saying come from? I’m not even thinking about what I’m saying. When you know me better, you’ll see that I usually never think about what I’m saying. OK? This Lady is called Matron, in The Talmud. The Matron tells this guy, the wise man… she says: “That’s what God does? I can do that too!” So he says: “Fine, try it.” The lady heads to… her estate. Takes hold of every single man and every single women.. among her slaves… and tells them… -According to The Talmud there were 1000 total, 500 men and 500 women and she tells them: “This one with this one, this one with this one” and pairs up 500 couples… and tells them: “From now on, your’e married, live together.” Right? And she’s left with the satisfaction of knowing… I can do the same thing those Hebrews’ God does. Three days later, a man without an eye shows up, a beat up woman. All the people complaining about that partner that was… that was… assigned… makes life miserable. Right? And sees such a level of chaos, that makes a decision to dissolve every marriage she arranged. She goes: “well, non of you have to live with that person any more.” And goes back to see this Talmud wise man and says: “Your God… is the utmost supreme intelligence in this universe.” And he replies with a phrase contained in the Psalms, that says: “The Lord sets a man in a house and doesn’t allow him to leave until the right time comes.” Which the Ari also explains the meaning of that phrase is in the word “bayt”, house in Hebrew, are the same letters as in “bat”, daughter. OK? Which the Ari explains this phrase means God takes a man and sets him up with a woman and doesn’t let him leave until he’s served his time. Because kabbalistically, and you’ll learn this, the ones that have never taken a Reincarnation class or the Level 3 Course with us. Whatever a woman does to a man, is OK. It’s what he deserves. That’s how we end up with 80% of the audience being women. Usually Initial Levels are 50-50 and after TU B’Av, or Level 3 Course… half the men leave. And from that, the Ari explains how mechanics of relationships work and he says that the 1st time a soul incarnates in this world, 1st time it incarnates… as it descends, the soul splits in two. One masculine and one feminine. The feminine side is here to learn to receive… sans ego (we’ll explain what that means in a moment)… and the masculine side is here to learn to give. If they manage to accomplish that task they’re here to do… they find each other again and go back to being one piece. If they don’t accomplish the task… and die without finding each other, next time they incarnate… -and that’s where rules of reincarnation begin when they reincarnate… they turn up… The Zohar says a sea of distance from each other. And doesn’t necessarily mean a continent apart. Despite The Ari says one of the… of the things that bring someone closer to finding their soulmate is moving to another country… where they had to cross an ocean; or move to a country where a foreign language is spoken, that has nothing to do with their native language. And it’s got nothing to do with their soulmate being there, at that other place;… rather the effort it requires, adapting; the spiritual work that shift entails, brings the person closer to finding it. But this idea of it being an ocean apart… is because the ocean, water has to do with the emotions. That which we call falling in love with someone… and all the emotional rush it provokes… is the best sign… to know that person is not your soulmate. OK? But that doesn’t mean… what you have to do is -and when you get it in you head that’s the one, in a world where more than 80% of people who have gotten married, have gotten a divorce and more than 50% get a divorce during the 1st two years of being married. Either 80% of us are stupid or so it happens that in that moment… there’s something that… beyond your will condemns you to want to be with that person until… in truth is until you learn. OK? There’s something to learn in everything that happens to us in this world and there are… two ways of doing it. One is through spiritual growth, making the effort of growing spiritually; which means for a man, learning to give… and for a woman, unselfishly receiving. That’s why nothing… is seeing as more virtuous in a woman, to a man, as a woman who’s not seeking to receive wealth from him… this is very common in couples where the man is a millionaire and the lady has a Foundation… where she… consumes all of the family money, but not for her, but for a cause. And there’s nothing… more… I could almost say arousing to a woman, than a generous man. There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than generous man; further more, I mean… that gorgeous, cute guy, perfect physic, when he says: Do we split the check? Right? In that moment, in your eyes, he gains 800 pounds, his hair falls out, he’s missing a tooth. Doesn’t he? Right? That’s what we’re here to learn. When the person learns… is ready to get out of jail… from that house they’re in… Because that person… and every relationship we’ve had, have in some way been… almost a penance, so to speak. Right? And some times is not the relationship itself, but… the learning that’s left after it’s over, when you realize you were a moron and the other person was great; but you shouldn’t try to get back together. OK? Relationships that end… they ended for a reason. And unless you have children, or something that makes you have to see that person, it’s better never seeing them again. From July 25th, to December 6th, we have Venus retrograde. Wen Venus is retrograde, makes you think that some past loves, were right. And in fact, is a good opportunity to… call or try to get close to a past love if you were never involved with that person. That is, if you were in love, but nothing ever happened. Well, Venus retrograde… is a good moment to find out if that jail cell turns out to be rewarding as a learning experience. But overall, for most people, Venus retrograde makes them think… in the end, that guy wasn’t that bad or she… don’t get back together. OK? If you got out -It’s like saying… “I want 2 more years in.” OK? If you got out on probation or with some kind of… of grace -Usually people stay prisoner much more than needed. Right? It’s important for you to know that The Old Testament,… Kabbalah and all, the true essence from where this idea we have comes from, of this God from where Jewish, Catholic and Muslim religion arise… at least in writing… 3500 years ago, in writing… supposedly written by Moses and told by God. Says one of the things a… a human being has to do… at least once in their life is get a divorce. At least once in their life. And in fact… the Ari says usually… soulmates never find each other in their first marriage. But what does that mean? They’re… wrong couples or marriages? No. They’re steps, they’re necessary to… learn. What takes place tonight is… tonight… tonight is a bit more special than usual… because… we have -Have you ever heard the saying “Once in a blue moon”? Right? Which means like… “When a bishop dies” (the saying in Spanish) Right, that saying? The reason why the saying goes Once in a blue moon… Blue moon is when there are two full moons in a month. Happens once every… three years approximately. So.. today it’s the 30th… and since the lunar cycle is 28 days, on a 30 day month, when the full moon falls on that day, there was also a full moon… on the 1st or 2nd of… July, in this case. What takes place today, is that tonight’s full moon, which represents the vessel or the feminine principle… full moon is when there’s the highest connection between the sun light… and the moon in relation to us, from our perspective. This moon is full.. of.. the month of Leo’s Sun light. And Leo is the month, is the zodiac sign… ruled by the Sun. Let’s say today’s the day when there’s -as a matter of fact, in the Northern Hemisphere, today’s when the… when because of how the Sun is positioned… is the day when the Moon has the highest amount of light. OK? The biggest reflection of light it gives throughout the year is on this night. It doesn’t happen to us when the full moon’s in the middle of… of our summer due to Earth’s azimuth, due to those twenty something degrees of inclination the Southern Hemisphere has. In the Northern Hemisphere, is the day when the moon’as at it’s brightest. I lived most of my life in the Northern Hemisphere, so when your’e there… you realize it’s a distinct moon, much brighter. And that’s what dressing in white means, it’s something that happens on its own. Today’s glare comes from the union of these two stars representing masculine and feminine, that falls into the Earth. Doesn’t matter in which Hemisphere you are, falls into the whole Earth. The Ari explains the idea of dressing in white… has to do with getting rid of evil. Today we’ll explain in detail… or with little detail. We explain it a bit, as well, in… in… this month’s Full Moon, Leo’s Full Moon. There’s a letter, which is the one that rules over the Sun… the letter Tet. The first time it shows up in The Bible, the letter Tet, is when God says… when he’s finished with the first day of Creation “and He saw that is was good”. In the word Tov (good), is the 1st time that letter shows up in The Bible. This whole problem we all have with relationships and duality and soulmates not finding each other right away is because of the 1st two humans who came into this world. It’s the famous Adam and Eve story; which it doesn’t matter if there were two first humans, but they represent two archetypes of human consciousness, who ate from the Three of Knowledge of Good and Evil… the word Tov shows up again… ve Ra. Of Good and Evil. Of those who are here, who took the Level 2 Course? OK, most of you. When the Ari explains what the energy of Evil is, of what we call Evil… tells us that Evil… 1st of all the word Ra, we’ve explained it in the Initial Course, the word Ra (evil), is an acronym; it isn’t… a word in itself, it’s an acronym that stands for Ratzon Atzmi (selfish desire). This means what we call evil actually doesn’t exist, what it is, is the physical manifestation… of someone’s selfish desire. A war… isn’t evil… is a huge selfish manifestation of someone’s desire of taking what belongs to another or imposing their thoughts on the other or other group of countries, people, whatever it might be. The word Ra, Evil… has the numerical value of 270. Numbers don’t exist in Hebrew. Letters and numbers are the same characters, so every word… has a numerical value when letters are added up. The word Evil has a numerical value of 270. And the Ari says evil is the mix of other two words that start with Tet, that are Tahor and Tame, meaning Pure and Impure. The word pure in Hebrew has a numerical value of 220 and the word impure, 50 and the sum of the two is 270, which is Evil. So one of the things the Ari says is that on this night, for one to dress in white, has to separate what’s pure from what’s not. Evil, selfishness exists when the person allows themselves to do selfish deeds, under the excuse that “well, it’s not that bad”. “Everyone does it” The person has to be consistent enough, whenever they feel like doing something selfish, be able to say: this is truly evil, but I’ll do it anyway. Because it gives me a pleasure that I’m not willing to… give up. Right? And I know it’s bad… When a person is able to do that, starts to heal themselves. Because they’re not lying to themselves, they know there are bad things they enjoy. Now, the more they say: This is absolutely bad… When you say: This cake I’m eating… absolutely goes against my dieting. You can’t eat it. What people say is: “Well, tomorrow I’ll do another hour at the gym. It’s not so bad. What will a spoonful do?” Right? It’s mixing -and if you pay attention, the numerical value of what’s pure is 220 and impure, 50. What’s pure is worth more, so to speak… but turns into selfishness or evil in the person’s life, when the person starts making the excuse: “It’s not that bad.” So first thing we have to do on the road to finding our soulmate, is look at our relationships… the present and previous ones… and identify… what we did, take responsibility and say: “That thing I used to do or this thing I do, is absolutely selfish, it’s bad.” Not bad, it’s impure. OK? There’s nothing behind it… when I manipulate something… in order to get something I want at someone else’s expense, whatever it is I do… is a 100% bad. I can change it today, I don’t know, I’ll see. But the first thing you have to do is start to separate… pure from impure and without justifying it. Keep on doing it if you want, you’re on your way to healing anyway, because every time you do something you know is a 100% bad and you’re able to say: every time I do this, I’m messing up my partner. It’s a bit more difficult to do it. Isn’t it? At the beginning we said -what time is it? At the beginning we said… that… what we came here to do… is learn to… give, but also learn to receive. Those who’ve already taken the Initial Course will know this perfectly, but now we’ll approach it from relationships point of view. Kabbalists say there are only 4 types of relationships between giving and receiving; which are… Receive to receive… Give to receive… Give to give and Receive to give. First one are selfish people. The only ting that matters to them is… to receive. And they don’t have any inconvenient in saying: I just want that… which you have to give and don’t expect anything from me. As we explained before, metaphysically, people get together by affinity of form. Many a time in the Middle Course, when we address this in more detail… people come out a bit in shock and there’s people that come up and ask: “But what does this mean? How do I stop attracting those selfish people in my life?” Stop being selfish! How it’s done? There isn’t a formula. In Kabbalah there isn’t a formula, “if you do this, this and that… you’ll attract these kinds of people.” What Kabbalah explains is that you’ll ALWAYS attract someone like you. Always! And what that person in front of you is showing you where you’re at spiritually. But how can it be if I give non stop and the… and the… and those who are selfish take advantage of me. It isn’t so. When a person is on a level of receive to receive, i.e. absolute selfishness, is going to find someone who’s on that same level. That type of couple, can live happy together… as long as the other continues to have what they were looking for. OK? The rich man, soccer player or whatever, with the pretty but dumb model. What does he want? For her to be smart and have a degree? No! He’s looking for something physical, with a certain appearance and she’s after his money. And you wonder “How can she sleep with this guy?” How couldn’t she, when she’s getting what she wants. What does she want? she wants the status, the money, so on. What does he want?… A pretty girl. As long as beauty lasts and as long as his money lasts… they’ll live happily. The problem starts… and, and, and… they’ll always attract someone alike. The problem starts on the second level. In fact, kabbalists, it’s important for you to know, they say the first two levels, between giving and receiving are distinctly of animal consciousness. They’re not considered human or what a human should be. Next level is where most people of the world are… which is give to receive. Since I’m not as pretty or handsome, and I’m not a millionaire. Must people aren’t Cindy Crawford or.. or Brad Pitt… and most people aren’t Warren Buffett or -what’s this old man’s name, the one who was married to… to… to this American actress, from Play Boy. What’s her name… Anna Nicole… Do you remember?… If I’m not mistaken she died before… nono, the old man died first. Being that most of us don’t have one of those two traits, we fall on the second one. I say we fall until the person achieves a certain spiritual growth. We fall on the second level, that’s give to receive. I WANT… a relationship, I WANT someone that keeps me company; but this other person doesn’t give it away for free… they want something in return; so what do I do? I give, I give as little as possible and try to get as much as I can in return. Most of the couples in the world, are made up of that exchange, of giving and receiving… and what The Zohar says about those kinds of relationships is they’re guaranteed unhappiness. Why?… It’s a guarantee… Why? Because.. We don’t like giving. We like to receive the person likes to give only when they’ve started growing spiritually. When that someone doesn’t have spiritual growth, what they like is to receive. So, even i f the portion of giving and receiving is the same, which always ends up being the same. OK? Don’t think that when you say oh, I give a ton and the other doesn’t, the other one… says the same. And it’s not unfair. That perception comes from me not liking to do what I have to do, which is giving. Whereas I do like receiving, so if someone gave a glass of water and the other as well, each receives a glass of water from the other… sounds like a bad deal… because I don’t like giving. And you say, no, but the amount was the same. No, it’s not the same, because the perception I have when I give is that it’s hard… and I like receiving. So it always seems to me that what the other gives a little. At least in relation to how unpleasant giving is to me. OK? Is it clear? The first level of spiritual growth is give to give. That is, you may be and idiot in what you give, because you don’t know how to tell what the other actually needs. But it doesn’t matter, because when you start giving to give, without expecting anything in return… you’re gonna attract people who also want to do that. Which generates a new problem, which is what the other has to give… is not as useful, because you don’t really need anything from anyone. And here is where the true love essence starts coming out. Love isn’t something that can be received… love is an emotion. In fact, when those who haven’t taken the Initial Course, love is the only emotion and all the other emotions, the other six Sefirot from the Tree of Life or sub-emotions from Zeir Ampin and Malchut are different frequencies from the light of love. But the only existing emotion is Love. Meaning love is an e-mo-tion, something that’s issued. Not something that’s received. One cannot receive love from somebody, one can issue love and with that love that’s issued, attract someone else that also issues love and live in an area full of love. But love isn’t something that can be given. Love is an emotion that can only be produced. And to.. I’m not gonna give you the whole detail, but to produce it, giving has to be desired. When people say “Oh, I need someone that spoils me, that holds me back, that… that gives me, that gives me, that gives me.” What will you find by affinity of form?? Someone lacking as well, who want’s to receive. And if you want to receive cuddles and kisses, you’ll find someone who wants cuddles and kisses. So, cuddles and kisses you give aren’t enough neither are the ones the other gives. Right? Because you wanted to receive it, not having to give it. And this takes to an even higher level, that’s almost automatic. which is.. receive to give. If people of the world were in an only giving consciousness, and receiving didn’t matter. Who would receive? Therefore, someone would have to make the effort, even if they don’t need it, receiving… something… so other can give. And that which you can receive, can be kisses, cuddles, caring, companionship, whatever the other person gives; in whichever way they give it. You’re not doing it because you need someone to give to you; you’re doing it because the other needs to give. And automatically produces… a relationship where both are constantly giving without expecting anything back. Now… Once they try it, many people think this doesn’t work, because they give, give, give and give… and a selfish person shows up that just wants to receive, receive, receive, receive. Well, pay attention to why you give, because surely there’s a hidden agenda manifesting someone with a very open receiving agenda. Why does a person like that show up? Because they need to show you it’s not true you’re unselfishly giving. That person wouldn’t come up in your life otherwise. Because a selfish person can’t stand being next to someone who’s not selfish. Two selfish people feel like they’re kings of the world. Someone selfish, next to someone who’s not, feels like trash… and no one wants to be next to someone who makes the feel like trash. Then, getting someone who’s just as selfish is in their interest, so they both feel “Look how good we are.” A selfish person never… stays with someone giving. Because they’re exposed. Right? Light of altruism makes their filth shine. And this leads us to the question: what’s the key? Because incidentally, there’s something even worse… which is… -and for thousands of years Kabbalah has said… the famous, um has a name in Psychology… The famous Paradox of Desire. We want things and fell it’s gonna provide us with satisfaction. We feel it when we get it, as a matter of fact… but the truth is any satisfaction nullifies the desire. A person’s hungry… eats and he’s no longer hungry, because they ate. Then someone’s single and wants to… be in a relationship and that desire leads them to try and be better, make an effort to be in a relationship and once they get that… they’re no longer hungry. Right? And they don’t desire that person any more and even less desire of making an effort to try and show themselves as a good person. So what’s the key behind desire? The key of desire is finding someone who wants the same. There’s no chance of having a good relationship if what’s keeping them together is something the other has. They should have a desire in common. Something outside the couple where they can work together; could even be a fondness, i don’t know, a taste for the Arts, something that takes them… something that takes them to do something together where they are able to receive and fulfill a desire that doesn’t come from the other. Because what one actually looks for in a partner, is a witness. If you look for someone that provides satisfaction, is never gonna happen, because the only thing that provides that in this physical world is the metaphysical Light coming from the infinite world. and if this wasn’t enough… we are all actually women. Because we all are the vessel from the infinite world. Right? Some disguised as men and some disguised as women, to play this game of being like the Light and the Vessel; but we’re all the vessel. Then the only way for us to feel satisfied is if we find something we want to receive together. In a few minutes, after I explain this, we’re doing a kind of practice work… for which I ask beforehand, that you pick somebody next to you that’s not your partner; i.e., if you came with your partner, pick the person next to you. and identify who’ll be your partner for what we’ll do after. Do it now because I don’t want you getting distracted by trying to find a partner. Do you have a partner? What? Nonono, they shouldn’t be together. Yeh, yeh. That they’re not a couple. Doesn’t matter if you came together, the thing is that you’re not involved in a relationship. And then…go back to being quiet. Does everyone have a partner? Yes? See how easy it was to find a partner? Once the person… reincarnates… In fact, if the person, the 1st time they… incarnate, find their soulmate, they don’t have to come back to this world ever again. Because the work required to find a soulmate, once they’re together, produces perfection in the… -oh, since I’m on it, the concept of “why” was left hanging. What we feel when we fall in love is proof they’re not our soulmate. Metaphysically we’re made off of 7 emotions… and… when we’re born into this world… the soul we have is split in two, it’s not complete. And we live wanting to find somebody else, we don’t know why; because every time we’re with someone and break up we say we’re better off alone. Right? But… a month later… or two days later… depending on how high tolerance to loneliness you have… You start to think it would be nice… you just, a week before you said: “Never again in my life…” However… a week, two months later, however long it is… We get this need to find it. Why? Because we’re actually incomplete. A single person is always incomplete. And we search, we go out to find… and we go out to find by affinity in form… people who fits our crack. We’re broken in a certain way and we look for someone who fits. If you pay attention… the main reigning emotion that lasts through the time a person is in love, is fear. Will they or won’t they call? Right? Would they…? That uncertainty. Supposedly, the most thrilling part about falling in love, is that insecurity of “should I call them or not, do they like me or not, are they going to call or not”. In small levels, depending on the person, but they’re different… aspects of fear… or fear of them leaving… or fear of loosing them. Those kinds of emotions, if they include a kind of lacking or fear -we explain it in the Initial Course first class or in the Introductory Course “The Mystical Secrets of Success”, that fear comes up when there’s lack of love. When love fades away. Falling in love doesn’t mean love. Love, the word love… in Hebrew… “Ahava”… has the same numerical value as the word “Echad”, which means one. One can only feel real love with that other half of a soul with whom they are One. What they feel for others is mainly, because the cracks between the souls don’t fit too well. That emotion, that rush of emotion one gets is how the Sefirot of emotions collide, the metaphysical portion inside out thorax, so to speak, the emotional portion… until it manages to blend with this other thing that doesn’t fit so well. That’s why every once in a while, the cracks, as if they were fault lines, produce earthquakes. OK? Earthquakes that try to put these two poorly joined fault lines in place. They’re not mean to… match. Here in Argentina we have I don’t know if you know, we have the… we have the utmost duality between the most unstable and stable ground on the planet. At the mountain range we have a seismic zone that’s part of the Pacific fault line, which instead of being in the middle of the ocean, like the Atlantic fault line, is on the ground. OK? So from California to Tierra del Fuego, we have the most unstable fault line on the ground; or the longest in the world, let’s say. Mean while in… there’s a town I don’t remember the name, in Patagonia Were they wanted to build the, I don’t know if you remember, the… the nuclear dump. Well, that’s because it’s the most stable place in the world. There isn’t any other place where the ground is so perfect in its merge, in the plates. With which there isn’t movement ever again. That’s the soulmate. a soulmate isn’t… when one finds their soulmate, there’s no great emotion of will they or won’t they call. Your soulmate is like coming home. It’s as if you had been traveling for a long time and stayed in nice hotels and the trip was heavenly and you had an extraordinary time and you meet people and all. But coming home is coming home. Is a place where you don’t have to pretend, where… Is coming home. Being with your soulmate… is that feeling. Is knowing you’re home. That’s that. There’s no… there’s no distress, no ups and downs. And that doesn’t mean this other person isn’t the one who pushes you the most… to grow and become and give. OK? In soulmates’ relationships fights are the worst in the universe and bonding moments are the best in the universe as well. Why? Because, usually promoted by the lady in the relationship, fights will be the most… -because no one knows better how to hurt you than the one who has your same soul. No one knows you better inside than your soulmate. Likewise there’s no one better to bring out the best in you than your soulmate. Now, our big issue is… is… we’ve been reincarnating for a long time. This souls here in the world are a kind of… of.. leftovers… I don’t want to end up with a reincarnation class, but there aren’t as many souls as there are humans in the world. There is a limited group of souls… Excuse me. which each have a soulmate, but when they don’t do their homework, a lot of times souls divide and one soul goes into to 2 or 3 people. The fact that there’s more and more population in the world, is not that there is a…a… an infinite soul source. There are the same amount of souls, that as people fall, some fall spiritually and some grow spiritually; the ones who fall, subdivide… and become weaker people. OK? Usually isn’t the case of people on a spiritual search. The fact is we’ve incarnated… many times… and… who knows where our soulmate may be. For us to be able to find our soulmate, we were given… three… fundamental tasks… which when we overcome them… the reward is our soulmate. First one is an astral aspect. OK? You were born a certain day at a certain place in the world, which makes you of a certain zodiac sign and have a certain astral chart. It’s… is good to know… a person’s astral chart. Not to predict the future, but to know… their baggage. OK? What’s their baggage. That baggage can be full of gold. Doesn’t necessarily mean it’s something bad. But is good to know what you’re carrying. When you overcome that… you learn to get over your zodiac sign’s animal aspects, you have a 3rd of the work done. Then you were born at a particular place in the world. And to get to your soulmate, you have to cross the ocean. Today, luckily, you don’t need to… relocate to another country and cross, because we have enough technology for the other side of the world to come to us. Has to do with opening up your mind to understand that… people who don’t share the same idiosyncrasy as you are also right. What you see as imperfect, is just ignorance, because you don’t understand how people acting different or thinking different is perfect. OK? Everyone is right. Everyone. When you think the other isn’t right, what’s happening is you don’t understand their thinking. But the other is also right. And the 3rd and most deceiving of all is that wen we were born into this world we were given a couple of parents. Kabbalistically we choose them. And parents are a type of jail, much like… marriage. Few people have so much to do with your relationship not being good… as your parents do. It’s a little late, so I’ll try not to elaborate…. but… this needs to be known, perhaps start learning it today, to begin working on it. Hopefully you’ll master it in no time. And if not, at least to keep it in mind. Raise your hand if you come from a family where parents didn’t fight. OK. Six people. Sorry? Or at least not in front of you. OK. Most people come from… the truth is I come from a family where my parents didn’t fight. But if I were to be asked why they didn’t fight… I know clearly there was a mechanism allowing one of them, in exchange for no fighting, to get everything they wanted. It’s weird someone coming from a family where there isn’t… -I’m not saying the parents don’t love each other. But where there wasn’t some kind of… Raise your hand who, when you were between… I don’t know, that you can remember, 4 or 6 years old… and… 10, 12, 13 years old… didn’t have affinity with one of the parents. Raise your hand who didn’t go through that. Yes, someone who didn’t go through that raise your hand. Someone who their parents were the same to them. OK. One. For the people who’s watching on streaming, there aren’t 6 people, nor one here. There are more than a 100 people sitting here, but only one raised their hand when we asked… who felt the same about their relationship with their mother or father. One of the… of the hardest things to get over during our spiritual growth… is the programming. Our parents were given to us, for that, for them to program a bunch of junk in our heads. For us to be able to grow and overcome… that programming they tried to install. Why? Because we usually always reincarnate in the same family tree. Reincarnations rarely happen different trees. And we frequently are the great grandfather, the… and we come to repair those same… those same traits… selfish traits from the grandfather, great grandfather and ten generations up. Not as punishment for generations below, but because we are them. We didn’t do it back then, so what are we lacking? Parents brought up by those grandparents… to get in our heads, the same thing that… they got in theirs. The moment someone mends it and heals it… in their marriage, in their relationship, they heal it for the rest of the three. Then the offspring doesn’t have to go through that. Issues start during pregnancy. Everything the mother thinks or says or feels and doesn’t say during pregnancy, starts programming what the person thinks is wright or wrong. Above all, above all… the relationship the woman has with the husband while she’s pregnant. Fears… expectations, whatever. One of the most useful things one can do if they have living parents… Is going to see the mother and ask her to tell you… how was it when she was pregnant. When you were inside her belly. And when she’s finished telling you… Tell her: OK, now tell me what really happened. Parents always lie when their kids ask them, because every parent assumes their children want to hear they were wanted, that, that they were conceived with love… Right? But then children don’t understand why they have some conflicts. And if you can’t get your mother to tell you the truth, no one can give you a better version than her, because maybe your dad has other opinion of what was happening during pregnancy, because your mom kept her thoughts and feelings to herself. If you don’t succeed, find an aunt who hates your mom. If you find an aunt that hates your mom, if you ask her, she’ll think about what was going on and you’ll find out things about your family… that… others try to hide, allegedly, to protect you. There’s a reason why the try to hide it. It’s because getting the information has to be hard for you. Because it’s part of you making amends, because it was probably you who started it in your family and now you don’t know why somethings happening to you, well do research, poke around. And when one finds it, you’ll see what you find… in the tree, are things you’re feeling. That’s why one chose a family, with those parents programming you that way. Now, once the baby’s born is usually when we have a parent that we like better or we are the favorite child, if we are more than one child. Mom or dad’s favorite or whatever. That turns that parent… with whom you do have a good relationship, in your mind, into a kind of ally. If you remember how it was when your parents fought it’s like the worst that can happen in a family. If there’s a war in a country… when there’s fighting between the parents in a family, that’s the same. That’s how a child experiences it. Like an adult experiences a war in their country, a child experiences a fight between their parents like a war at home. And in war there are enemies and allies. Unfortunately, who damages the child the most is the ally, no the enemy, because what happens is … what happened to all of us is we grew up thinking everything the enemy does is wrong. Including, including… Excuse me. Including… truces. Since they’re branded as the enemy… what the enemy does when there’s no war… are… traits of a bad person. it’s as… deep as… if… if your parents fought and… you became allied with your dad… your mom’s easier, you became allied with your mom… I’m using this because there are more women here and i’m interested in most people being able to identify, but it’s the same for both genders. You allied with your mom. But you mom and dad didn’t fight all the time. But the dad, you also had a good relationship with him, but subconsciously, due to the fighting, dad’s the enemy. Perhaps not your enemy, but he’s your ally’s enemy. Your parents fight once a week, but 5 days of the week they get along. And when get along, your dad… strokes your mom’s chin. Or touches her ear. Or… takes her by the neck to kiss her. If that’s what the enemy does.. today, after 35, 40, 60 years, when other man does any of those things… he’s your enemy. And you can’t figure out what’s going on, but you start thinking you don’t like them so much anymore. And it isn’t because there’s something wrong with that guy. The thing is, there’s a whole lot of memory in the cells of your skin, that… if he touches your ear, nothing happens; but if he touches your chin, the cells… on this area of your face… have an alarm to the touch, that say: That’s the enemy. An that’s… that’s something Psychology discusses today and… Biodecoding, but this is something Kabbalah has talked about for thousands of years. You can’t… And obviously the ally is even worse, because everything they do is right, so all those things your mom, if she was the ally, did to manipulate your dad, which always lead to a fight… and how she reacted to the fight, is where we say: It’s not that bad. Tahor and Tame, where we say yes, it’s impure, but manipulating’s pretty common, my mom used to do it. You don’t say it out loud… but you have it engraved, that your ally… after the fight got a truce by doing such and such thing. And you repeat the same pattern thinking you’re doing the right thing. One of the… fundamental, but foundational things of having a good relationship is being able to see… your parents… without loosing the love you have for them, as your worst enemies. For a while, long enough for for you to objectively see how they related with each other. Otherwise you’ll end up… the… daughters of womanizing fathers… Right? and mothers who pretend not knowing the father’s a womanizer… Everything the father does as a common man when he’s with his family, I don’t know, have a barbecue on Sunday… when the daughter sees her husband having a barbecue and moves in a way her father did, she start thinking he’s cheating on her. So power is key to start constructing from here to next TU B’Av and not having to come back. Don’t worry, here the dynamic’s always the same; people come and do spiritual work trying to find their soulmate. After, they find them and stop coming, because they have better things to do and that lack of keeping up the work makes them loose their soulmate and they come back again. That’s why we’re used to seeing them each year. And that’s fine because… An ever-present Kabbalah student is the worst thing there is. Kabbalah applies to life, not here in this building. So one of the things to do that’s foundational to produce that structure is if your parents are still together, objectively see… -make them an offer, try to see them non-stop for a while, so you’re able to, as if you were in a laboratory. And objectively try and look at the similarities between you and them. If you’re alike, probably that’s something you have to change. And you have to objectively see… moreover, a lot of times… parents who have these kinds of relationships… since they don’t feel capable of facing the Tikkun, the amendment they have to make… they pass it on to their children. Literally. They start by blaming them for the fight. They blame the kid for their fight but actually what they’re saying is I don’t know how to face, I don’t have the tools to face this thing that happens to us when we’re together that we end up fighting. Perhaps our children will know how. And most children… agree to it. If you’re aware of having done this… next time you’re visiting your parents, bring them a cake… it’s best if it’s something they will ingest. OK? And mediate on giving them back… I mean it… Mediate on giving them… all back. It doesn’t matter if something happens to them or not. Nothing is gonna happen to them. You have to be able to see when they eat it and go: “You know what? All that shit you gave me for however long. I’m giving it back to you. You can have it back. That’s your Tikkun, that’s your fight and your amendment with your wife; and if you’re moron who pretend your husband doesn’t cheat on you, that’s your problem and has nothing to do with my life.” If you want, you can even write a note in teeny tiny letters and hide it below the cake so they won’t see it. Give that back to them. Give that back to them. OK. With this knowledge, I’m gonna ask you to look at the person you chose as your partner… for tonight. Silently. That way you won’t get distracted. OK. For this exercise… For this exercise what you’ll need to know is that we’re all vessels. We’re all the vessel. And the vessel, due to this equality in form we have, we’re linked by this thing we have, called Morphogenetic Field. Since we’re the same kind of vessel, every vessel in the world is connected. We have this problem, in regard to that person you’re looking in the eye, you see yourself separate from that person. But that’s alright. This exercise is to use the… Because one acknowledges themselves and the rest is humanity. So we’re gonna use the fact that we have someone in front of us, who is one of humanity. Right? They are all together and I’m the only one that matters and apart from the rest. OK? We’re using that person in front of use, who’s connected to everybody else, as a transmitter and delivers a message through this morphogenetic field, to our soulmate. First I want you to close your eyes. Yeh, yeh, yeh, in the same position you’re in close your eyes for a second. I’ll be more than a second. And I want you to imagine… Are there any single people? Someone left alone? Nonono, single as in not having a partner… I can’t be serious with you, eh. Well, not for nothing they say there isn’t a happier day than this. No? The thing is, we have someone who didn’t find a partner to do the exercise with for tonight. With two more? OK. It’s alright. We’re an odd number of… OK. Silence, close your eyes. I want you to imagine… a long… road… in the middle of… a place that feels nice. Could be a forrest, could be a narrow road, or a highway, whatever comes to mind. and on that road… there are people standing along the road. And far away… with their back turned… is your soulmate. Far. They have their back turned. People in the middle… among others who maybe you don’t know yet, they’re your past relationships. Your parents, grandparents… and if you met them, even your great grandparents. You’re at the beginning… of that road. Your soulmate’s at the end. And in the middle… are all your other partners. There’s your parents, grand parents and even your great grandparents. The others you don’t know on the road… even tho’ they look young… they’re other people in your Family tree. Great great grand parents and going even further back in your ancestry. All the people in the middle… are needed… because they have a piece of information… something you had to learn… to tie.. this field of communication together… between your soul… and your soulmate. If some of those people on the road… ever betrayed you… was due to affinity of form. Because you betrayed them in some way too. If one of those people hurt you some time… it was also due to affinity of form. Because you hurt them too by action or omission. And that betrayal and wound… were for the both of you to learn something. Therefore those people on the way… they’re your masters. And what they want to teach you… is the way to your soulmate. That person sitting in front of you… is also on the way. Because they’re sitting next to you today and you chose them for a reason. And they will be the spokesperson… for you to speak to the road. Now open your eyes and without saying a word, look the other person strait in the eye. And out loud, speaking to all the people in the road, except your soulmate… Say what follows… I apologize… If I hurt you… If I made you feel bad… If I misinterpreted… or misunderstood… what you meant to tech me. I thank you… for not giving up the task of teaching me. And you were there… and endured pain as well… just for me to learn. Every programming… you tried to show me… though your relationship… with other partners… are my guide… to learn… what I have to overcome. I give back to you…. everything I took on that wasn’t mine. Whatever I might have taken from you… material or immaterial. And I thank you for being my master. All the people on the road set aside… No, sorry, sorry. All the people on the road set aside…. and clear the way between you and your soulmate. And you’ll say this to your soulmate: Today I understood… I don’t need anything you may give me. I’m complete. I’m ready to give together. I want you to know… that from the first time… we came into this world I search for you. And today I feel… I’m ready for us to find each other. Close your eyes. And I want you to imagine this person at the end… of that road… turns around and despite being so far away… you can sense they’re smiling at you. With that image… greet your partner for tonight… and thank you for coming. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You have no idea how hard it is to.. because last year some people told me it’s way too hard when someone doesn’t say “you” like an Argentinian, having to repeat something that’s not how you speak. You don’t know how hard it was to do it neutral. To the people watching, specially the Puerto Vallarta Group, that I know there are a lot people gathered at the Los Mangos Library in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. People from Mexico City and all other places where they follow us, I know there are a lot of people on the Virtual Classroom. Regards and Chag Sameach. Thank you, thank you, thank you.